My friend barrows my clothes all the time!?

think of it as if you were in her shoes. if she doesn't have many clothes let her borrow some of yours. if you really don't like the idea give her clothes that you don't want anymore. and as for the laundry you will have to tell her to do that. maybe make a schdule on days that she does laundry and days that you do landry that way its even.